Toby Messer, NCPS
Solution-focused analytical psychotherapist
- Integrative behavioral and analytic methods
- Focus on present change
- NCPS credentialed professional
About Toby Messer
Toby Messer is a solution-focused, analytical psychotherapist who concentrates on understanding the roots of behaviour and emotion while helping clients make active, meaningful changes in the present. He combines practical, skills-based work with deeper exploration to address both what is happening now and the patterns that sustain difficulties. By integrating behavioural methods such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), rational emotive behaviour therapy (REBT), and dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) with analytic and psychodynamic approaches, he creates a tailored way of working that aims for effectiveness and longer-term benefit.
His practice emphasizes clear, goal-oriented interventions alongside reflective exploration, supporting clients to develop new strategies and insights that fit their daily lives. This blend of techniques allows him to move between building coping skills and examining underlying dynamics, adapting to the needs and preferences of each person. Toby holds the NCPS credential, a professional registration that indicates formal training and adherence to recognised practice standards.
His practice emphasizes clear, goal-oriented interventions alongside reflective exploration, supporting clients to develop new strategies and insights that fit their daily lives. This blend of techniques allows him to move between building coping skills and examining underlying dynamics, adapting to the needs and preferences of each person. Toby holds the NCPS credential, a professional registration that indicates formal training and adherence to recognised practice standards.
Areas of Expertise
Primary Focus
Also Specializes In
AddictionsLGBTFamily conflictsTrauma and abuseIntimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigueADHD
Additional Focus Areas
AbandonmentAging and geriatric issuesAntisocial personalityAttachment issuesBDSM, kink, and alternative sex cultureBlended family issuesBody imageCancerCaregiver issues and stressChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCodependencyCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDependent personalityDisruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)DissociationDivorce and separationDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesFertility issuesFirst responder issuesForgivenessGender dysphoriaGuilt and shameHoardingHospice and end-of-life counselingImpulsivityInfidelityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisVeteran and Armed Forces IssuesMoney and financial issuesMood disordersMulticultural concernsNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksParanoiaPersonality disordersPhobiasPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPostpartum depressionPost-traumatic stressPregnancy and childbirthProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSelf-loveSex addictionSexual assault and abuseSexual dysfunctionSexualitySocial anxiety and phobiaTrichotillomaniaWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues
Therapeutic Approach
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Attachment-Based Therapy Client-Centered Therapy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Existential Therapy Jungian Therapy Mindfulness Therapy Motivational Interviewing Psychodynamic Therapy Solution-Focused Therapy Trauma-Focused Therapy Systemic Therapy
Frequently Asked Questions
How much experience does Toby Messer have?
Toby Messer has 11 years of experience working as a psychotherapist.
Is Toby Messer a registered therapist?
Yes. Toby Messer holds the NCPS credential, which indicates professional registration.
In which languages does Toby Messer provide therapy?
Toby Messer provides therapy in English.
Where is Toby Messer located?
Toby Messer is located in the United Kingdom.
How can I work with Toby Messer as my therapist?
You can work with Toby Messer through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging.
Does Toby Messer work with international clients?
Yes, Toby Messer works with international clients.
How much does therapy with Toby Messer cost?
The cost of therapy can vary depending on factors such as your location and the therapist's availability. Sessions are billed through a subscription that can be cancelled at any time, for any reason. For current details, click the "Start Therapy" button on this page.
How can I get started with therapy?
Getting started with therapy is quick and straightforward. Click the "Start Therapy" button and complete a short questionnaire that helps match you with your therapist. Depending on availability, you can then schedule your first session, which may take place by phone, video call, live chat, or in-app messaging.
Integrated therapeutic approaches for online care
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice unhelpful thoughts and feelings while committing to actions that reflect their values - it is useful for stress, anxiety, and motivation-related difficulties. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on the links between thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, offering practical strategies to reduce symptoms of depression, anxiety, and many everyday problems. Attachment-Based Therapy explores relational patterns that develop from early experiences and how these influence current relationships and emotional responses, which can be helpful for intimacy, grief, and attachment-related concerns.Toby works collaboratively with clients to identify which approaches or combination of approaches are the best fit for their needs, goals, and preferences. Determining the right method is part of the therapeutic process and is adapted over time as progress and priorities evolve.
Online therapy with Toby is available via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging, offering flexibility for different schedules and communication styles. These options make it easier to maintain continuity of care, access support from a distance, and choose the format that feels most comfortable for each person.